In general, people with toxic characteristics are usually those who, with their way of being and acting, hurt us, take away energy, do not meet our expectations of what we expect them to be or do for us. That is, they are beings with whom we establish relationships that are not beneficial to us and that take more from us than they give us.
These are some of the unique characteristics of such people that can make them easier to identify. It is worth clarifying that not all toxic people have all the characteristics; some are more present than others.
• Have trouble communicating effectively
• They are arrogant, critical
• They tend to victimize
• They do not take responsibility for their actions and therefore are never to blame for anything.
• Aggressive or passive-aggressive
• Manipulators
• Little empathetic
And of course, it is also true that these characteristics apply to any type of person, not just those of our own blood. What happens is that it is more difficult for us to realize the toxic attitudes that our parents may have, for example; people we deeply admire and from whom we always want your approval.
How to deal with a toxic relationship?
Before taking any "radical" measures, it is important to listen to this person who is toxic to us and provide support, to generate a constructive conversation with the people who are victimized and ask for management alternatives: "What are you going to do with that? "," How do we solve it? "," What is your plan? ".
If this person continues in her toxic attitude, no way. We have the peace of mind knowing that we listened, that we were willing to collaborate, but we must have the strength to understand that we should not be hooked on the same discussions or problems that others do not want to see and solve.