7 Signs Of You're Self-Sabotaging video
Many times we unconsciously sabotage ourselves and do not allow ourselves to achieve what we want. We make excuses or little "traps" even knowing that the actions we are taking will not take us to the desired place.
This type of self-destructive behavior is associated with personality disorders and other mental disorders such as depression and is usually formed as a mechanism to cope with stress or other negative emotions
Signs of self-sabotage:
1- You delay without reason any necessary action on your part to solve a problem, be it a relationship, domestic, work or social nature.
2-You deny your ability to advance in a task and you usually mentally repeat the limiting phrase "I can not" or "I am not able"
3-You believe that to do something that requires an effort you need something or someone external to you, becoming a dependent person.
4-If something goes wrong or not as expected, you comfort yourself with food.
5-You constantly feel sorry for yourself without seeing a solution to your problems.
6-You have negative and self-destructive thoughts constantly.
7-You demand too much of yourself and when you do not meet your own expectations you fall into endless justifications and finally into a depressive state because of your lack of realism.
8-Faced with a problem you put "buts" to any possibility of solution.
9-You try to please others and most of the time you forget about your own needs.
10-You work too hard and don't pay attention to your health, even if your body sends you signals that you need a break.
11-You have excesses such as: drinking too much alcohol, drugs, exercising for a long time and without control, compulsive shopping, sex addiction, etc.
12-You prefer to feel bad or unhappy than to be happy in a situation of joy and festivity
13-You isolate yourself and immerse yourself in your own destructive thoughts or sadness.
14-You repeat the same actions even knowing that they are not effective and you refuse to change because deep down you know that if you do, things would be different and you prefer to continue in the same way
15-If you feel that you have failed in something you punish yourself and never reward yourself for the achievements you may have, because for you, they are not.
16-You only feel satisfied if a problem is solved in the way you think it should be.
17-You stay in the complaint and not in the solution.
18-You prefer to give a wrong view of yourself rather than show your own emotions and feelings.
19-You neglect your personal hygiene and your physical appearance.
20-You do not give yourself permission to have doubts, fail or learn new things.
As you can see, these self-destructive behaviors can end up taking you to a bottomless pit, destroying your interpersonal relationships, losing a good job or complicated relationships within the family. Many of them are the result of stress and repetitive negative thoughts.
If you see that you meet more than 5 of these self-sabotages, I recommend that you start working on them today. There are many techniques and tools that can help you solve these types of behaviors. Ask for professional help if you see that you cannot get out of this situation by yourself. Take action!
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