7 Signs You're Becoming Toxic video
We have talked a lot about the kinds of toxic people who may be around us. But what if the toxic person were you?
A person who self-intoxicates and hurts himself.
It is always easier to see the straw in someone else's eye, but maybe different relationships or people hurt you because you are allowing it.
Perhaps your actions and your decisions are more negative than you think. Therefore, today we are going to discover 5 signs that may be turning you into a toxic person.
1. Staying next to who hurts you
Why do you stay next to that person who is doing you so much damage?
If you allow it, it is not that person's fault, it is yours!
You may not be made to live together, you may not be compatible because you do not have the same world view or the same values.
When you act this way, you are a toxic person. Maybe not with respect to others, but with yourself.
You are not loving yourself, you are not protecting yourself from the toxicity that permeates your relationship. What's more, you defend it by staying with someone you know is destroying you.
2. Blaming yourself for mistakes made
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. So it is important to start seeing them as opportunities to learn and move on.
If we are not able to do this and we constantly recriminate ourselves for those mistakes of the past, we are hurting ourselves and we are not moving forward.
Surely, you have become too much of a perfectionist or too demanding.
Psychoanalyst Michael Formica considers self-blame the most toxic form of emotional abuse.
Learn to accept your mistakes and not blame yourself for them. Being wrong is positive, so don't give your mistakes toxic power.
3. Suppress emotions
You may have been through complicated relationships that have hurt you a lot. This has caused you to suppress your emotions in order to protect yourself.
What you don't know is that doing this is much more toxic than you think. If you ignore your emotions, if you repress and imprison them, other negatives will emerge.
Harvard University studies show that suppressing emotions can even cause physical harm.
You must learn to express them without fear, because in this life you have to take risks. Furthermore, emotions are like desires, they are to be transmitted.
If you suppress your emotions, sooner or later you will be consumed. You will become a sad person who will not allow himself to love or be loved. You do not deserve it. Express what you feel.
4. Be pessimistic
Life is not easy, but adopting a pessimistic attitude is not the best of our options. This will be reflected in your person and you will also transmit this feeling to others.
As difficult as the moment you are living is, your pessimistic attitude is not improving it; what's more, you're doing much worse than it surely is.
Among toxic people there is a profile named in this way, pessimists and complainers.
Optimism will be your best ally and will prevent your own self-toxicity.
5. The others always first
Thinking of you does not make you a selfish person, but a person who loves himself and protects himself in this way.
We are used to being told that we should always care about the well-being of others but, forgetting about ourselves?
When you change this situation, many can see you as a selfish person, even you can feel like yourself.
What you don't know is that you are becoming less toxic.
Sometimes you yourself become a toxic person for free and without knowing it. We don't know that toxicity is not only to others, but also to ourselves.
Learn to analyze yourself, don't be afraid to discover things in yourself that you most likely won't like. We all make mistakes, but it is in our power to rectify them.
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