Being with someone with a paranoid personality


The children of parents with paranoid personality exist, although they are invisible to society. They suffer the effects of a disorganized attachment, an emotional instability that leaves marks and a very exhausting dysfunctional environment. They are children with a higher risk of mental disorders and who require, together with their families, greater medical-social care.

People with personality disorders, with schizophrenia, with dissociative disorders, etc. They also fall in love, have children and build their own families. This is evident, however, many of them, lacking adequate social and family support, lead to extreme situations that remain in the shade. We are talking about problematic dynamics that we are not always aware of.

Mental health or social services professionals working with sick adults should be very aware of those children and adolescents who grow up in an environment where one of the members has a psychological disorder.

It is very common, for example, that patients with paranoid personality neglect their treatments and that they are also characterized by a bad relationship with their environment. All this outlines very complicated situations, where children are undoubtedly the most vulnerable link. Therefore, it is necessary to visualize a little more these realities that occur daily in our closest settings, where the disease outlines situations that require our attention and sensitivity.

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Living with a person with a paranoid personality

To this day, we still do not know what or why this type of disorder develops. In general, it is assumed that it is the result of such a complex triad where biological, genetic and social factors are added together. It should be said that the paranoid personality forms one of the most exhausting psychiatric conditions for several reasons: it affects all areas of the person, making any personal, family and work relationship very difficult.

Let's see some characteristics:

  • They are profiles characterized by permanent mistrust. This disorder begins to show itself in adolescence, at which time they show behaviors of continued suspicion, thinking that others always have bad intentions towards them.
  • Continuous suspicion that they will be deceived, betrayed, abandoned ...
  • Excessive concern about almost any aspect.
  • They need continued displays of loyalty and fidelity.
  • Mismanagement of their emotions, they are also unable to forgive or forget any aspect that they consider as an affront, to the point of storing eternal grudges obsessively.
  • They are hypervigilant. They always have their radar "on" for any suspicion, danger or threat against them.
  • That suspicion also shapes them as an often cold and hostile character. They are people who are always on the defensive.

Children of parents with paranoid personality

Several studies have been conducted to find out what the impact of a parent with a paranoid personality is on raising their children. It should be noted, first of all, that the problem in these cases is twofold. We cannot forget that this disorder has a genetic weight, that is, there is an evident risk that the prevalence of this disease will be transmitted from one generation to another.

However genetics never determines 100% the risk that we will develop a psychological disorder, what most determines is undoubtedly our environment and the upbringing patterns received. This is undoubtedly where the real problem lies. Let's see next what scientific research tells us about how children of parents with paranoid personality tend to grow and mature.

Children of parents with paranoid personality: effects on parenting and education

  • At two years of age, children already show a more elusive look and less receptivity to external stimuli.
  • Insecure attachment, disorganized and marked by stress, determines that these little ones show behavioral patterns based on mistrust, hyperactivity, fear of abandonment, the constant search for comfort ...
  • Another common factor that characterizes fathers and mothers with a paranoid personality is emotional and educational incongruity. At times they are very affective, then they show coldness and hostility.
  • They are inconsistent with the norms and this generates a high stress on the child's brain development.
  • Children of parents with a paranoid personality have low self-esteem and a negative self image.
  • Emotional restraint because parents have invalidated their emotional and affective needs from the beginning.
  • They generally perform very poorly in school.