Dramatic people

03.10.2020
We all know a drama king or queen. Everything surpasses them, everything goes wrong! Now ... what if behind these emotional reactions there was a problem that we are neglecting?

The queens and kings of the drama seem to go from crisis to crisis , from catastrophe to misery and then to disaster without really knowing why. Their emotional reactions are often disproportionate and they even have the gift of getting everyone else to be aware of their daily sadness.

We all have a friend or relative who tends to this type of situation. His life seems like a theater where sudden incidents, unexpected turns of fate and the most bizarre situations do not stop arising . "Everything happens to me!", "Life is not fair to me!" they tell us.

Thus, and although their emotional reactions seem disproportionate and even theatrical, sometimes, we are left in doubt. Are these people's bad luck? Or is there perhaps some underlying problem that should be taken into account ? We analyze it.

Kings of drama: why do they act this way?

There are queens and kings of drama, people who maximize small problems , who oversize any situation and who require our support every two by three. Willingly or unwillingly they become the center of attention and can sometimes be exhausting.

However, it is necessary to make a nuance. As with any behavior, disorder, or personality style , everything falls within a spectrum. That is, there will be people who show a more exaggerated behavior and others, on the other hand, make the drama something punctual and occasional.

In any case, one thing is obvious: it is necessary to understand its reality. Moreover, in case we are the classic drama king or drama queen, it is always advisable to know what happens to us and what strategies we should take . We analyze it.

Inclination to over-emotionality

The queens and kings of drama can sometimes show emotional mismanagement . On average, it tends to oversize any situation and lead to those more extreme emotions, such as panic, anguish, despair ...

They do not do it voluntarily, there is no express quest to seek attention. At times, there may be a biological basis behind it and even a natural tendency to respond in this way . Having lived a traumatic experience , having suffered negligence with parents and lacking the skills to understand and manage emotional states can undoubtedly lead to these behaviors.

Covert depression

If there is something that defines the kings of drama, it is the ups and downs. In general, they tend to be charismatic people, with social skills to make friends, to connect with each other due to that natural intensity in everything they do. However, they are defined by emotional instability, showing themselves today full of energy and enthusiasm and soon needing support, wanting someone to listen to their sadness in the face of what has happened so negative and desperate.

In many cases, what is behind this instability and, above all, behind this inability to handle the little difficulties of day to day is a disguised depression . These fluctuations in mood are also often accompanied by sleep and eating problems, not being able to handle anything, and feeling overwhelmed. It is a reality that we must take into account.

The most troublesome kings of drama: histrionic personality disorder

In general, drama kings and queens basically show emotional mismanagement and a tendency to overestimate everyday problems. Now, we can also find more extreme cases ...

Thus, there are those who make drama their way of life. In these situations it is very possible that we are dealing with a person with a histrionic personality disorder .

The symptoms would be the following:

  • They express their emotions in a very theatrical and exaggerated way.
  • They show very abrupt mood swings.
  • They are influenced by other people.
  • They need to be the center of attention.
  • They tend to be provocative, they seek to attract through their behavior, their physical appearance, their words ...
  • They take liberties with others, thus generating situations of discomfort with those around them.
  • They are unable to take responsibility for their problems.
  • They are usually very immature .

If we ask ourselves why a person can go to these extremes, in many cases the answer lies in childhood. Studies such as the one carried out at the University of Manitoba (Canada) and published in the journal Pediatrics show us that factors such as abuse, physical punishment, abandonment or emotional neglect sometimes lead to the development of mental disorders.

What can I do if I'm a drama queen or king?

"Less drama that you are an exaggeration! "," Take things differently because your head is going!". Every drama king, like every queen, will have received this type of comment at some point. The truth is that these people would love not to fall into those emotional extremes, but the truth is that it cannot always be avoided.

No, when you spend half your life feeling that everything bad happens to you and that you have less and less control over things. What can we do then in these situations?

  • You need to learn to rationalize. Instead of reacting instantly to everything that happens to us, we must take a breath, stop and reflect. Before letting ourselves be kidnapped by emotions, let us first go through the filter of analysis to understand what has happened, why it has happened and what we should do.
  • The second strategy is to learn the basic keys to emotional management : what I feel, what that emotion tells me, how to control that emotion and what kind of reaction I should apply to feel better.
  • A third strategy is to learn problem-solving strategies . If we learn to handle the smallest difficulties of the day to day, we will better face the great challenges.

Last but not least, specialized help is essential . In many cases, as we have noted, behind the dramatic behavior there is a hidden depression that must be treated. Let's not let it pass.

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