Human growth in the phase of cessation


As has been shown in numerous scientific studies, there is no direct relationship between IQ and success in life. High rational powers do not equal complete human development, nor do they guarantee a satisfactory life path.

In fact, there are professionally successful people who happen to be in chaos when it comes to managing their emotional lives. Furthermore, Goleman (1998) states that the level of emotional intelligence may be more decisive than the level of IQ, since it determines the degree of skill that we will achieve in all our other faculties.

As a collation, we point to Gardner's multiple intelligences and the capacity that the educational system must have, among others, to promote, in addition to the development of academic intelligence, other intelligences that have a more personal character, such as emotional intelligence.

Although there are multiple theoretical models that encompass the construct of emotional intelligence, this article is presented in accordance with the initial approach of Salovey and Mayer (1990): it is the ability to recognize, differentiate, and appropriately manage one's and others' emotions. The set of emotional competences in which emotional intelligence is broken down varies according to the theoretical approach.

The development of all these skills is a sine quan on condition of personal and social well-being and therefore of having a more satisfactory life.

The relationship between addictions and emotional intelligence

Researchers Kun and Demetrovics (2010) conducted a systematic review to investigate the relationship between emotional intelligence and addictions. After analyzing about 36 studies, they concluded that two EI competencies, the decoding and differentiation of emotions and the regulation of emotions, play a key role with respect to substance use and addictions. Also poor regulation of mood. Along the same lines Orlando (2001) affirm that substance use is enhanced when the consumer is unable to face unpleasant emotional experiences and uses the drug as a form of avoidance.

Our socio-educational and psychological experience in the Llaurant La Llum therapeutic community coincides empirically with the findings of previous scientific references. Regarding emotional management skills, in general terms, users in the community have difficulties in identifying, regulating and expressing their emotions. Furthermore, they require emotional re-education, since they associate emotions with displeasure and lack of control.

They move between hyper emotional reaction, oversizing their emotions, and emotional anesthesia, which they achieve through consumption or toxic activity. They find it difficult to make an emotional repair and therefore have difficulty producing changes in their mood.

Regarding other emotional components such as self-concept, self-esteem and self-image, they generally present a distortion. These three components are affected by a negative image of themselves, based more on failures than on successes, as well as on past actions they motivated by their addiction and for which they regret.

This sometimes leads to a constant search for the approval of others, hypersensitivity to how others see them and a desire to please. It is necessary to promote a process of self-knowledge centered on resources, strengths and therefore on the development of healthy self-esteem.

Their self-efficacy is also affected, that is, the ability they believe they have to achieve the results they want. Relapses affect this component, the user being immersed in a process of starting again, feeling of failure and low personal expectations. In this regard, the self-motivation component is also affected since the impulsiveness that characterizes addictive behavior makes them need to see immediate results of their actions.

The job here is to learn to set short, medium and long-term goals and be able to generate resources to stay motivated. Also, the motivation towards change is sometimes extrinsic and it is necessary to lead the user towards intrinsic motivation.

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