Mental tiredness, weakness and even insomnia
Those times when you worry about almost everything, the mind reaches the limit of its resources. Yet why do we do it? Why do we fall into these deep abysses of worry?
Why do I worry about everything? Why can't I get out of the mental maze of these anguished thoughts for a while? Many people ask this same question at certain times and moments in their lives. The truth is that it is very easy to derive in this type of situation and therefore it is useful to delve into this type of psychological anatomy.
Such classic figures, such as the late Wayne Dyer, reminded us that the catastrophe that worries us so much is often less horrible in reality than it was in our imagination. It is true, we must admit it, people are often walking factories of concern, minds specialized in promoting their own suffering.
However ... is worry really that bad? Much of the self-help literature, as well as the most popular and everyday psychology, insists that nothing is as useless as worrying. Now, this is a reality that admits important nuances.
Worrying is not a harmful or negative exercise, this act of cognitive effort is the mechanism by which we anticipate certain things to act on them later effectively. The real problem is not in thinking a lot, the challenge is in knowing how to think well, in caring intelligently, logically and effectively.
Why do I worry about everything?
When you wonder, almost annoyed, why you worry about everything, it is because you have reached the limit. These are situations in which, along with mental exhaustion, physical discomfort, muscle aches, insomnia, headaches also appear ...
Dr. Carlos Pelta from the University of Madrid tells us in an interesting work that these situations are linked in many cases with psychological states such as anxiety and depression.
When these cognitive processes place their gaze only on the future, devising images and situations that, far from solving the problem, make it worse, we fall into a pathological state. We cannot go to these extremes. We must not feed those exhausting and negative chains of thought without any use.
The first step in these situations is to clarify triggers and act. Let's delve into it, understand what may be behind these situations.
We have been taught that responsible people are always concerned
We live in a society in which states, such as anxiety or stress, are normalized. In other words, we assume that every responsible person, committed to their work and family is subjected to a high burden. Responsibility and concern always go hand in hand and the more you worry, the more responsible you will be.
What can we do in these cases?
Personally, if we want to get out of this situation, we can start by changing our thinking patterns. Not by worrying more, we solve life's challenges better. Not because we are more overloaded, we are more worthy of admiration.
Excessive worry makes us sick, less competent and less happy.
It is necessary to know how to set limits, establish a better management of time and daily responsibilities. We will not always be able to do everything, we need time to ourselves and not take on more tasks than we can handle.
You are anticipating the worst
One of the reasons why we care about everything is revealed to us by a study carried out at the University of Laval (Québec). People often tend to anticipate negative realities. In some way, the brain seeks to prepare us for the worst so that we begin to react and deploy strategies.
However, thinking about worst-case scenarios almost constantly generates an unhealthy and exhausting over-activation. We are always alert. And all this translates into insomnia, physical tension and discomfort.
What can we do in these cases?
When we realize that the mind filters every reality, event and thought through fatalism and negativity, it is time to stop. To make a paragraph of a few days and give us time to rest is the most ideal. Calm and physical tranquility is the first step in calming the mind.
Once we have reached an adequate internal balance, it is time to rationalize ideas and promote changes. States of constant worry demand new decisions. Let's do it with intelligence thinking about our own well-being.
Why do I worry about everything? generalized anxiety
Constantly worrying and suffering the unspeakable before each thought, before each idea that crosses our mind can be a symptom of some psychological problem. If we've spent months (and even years) wondering why I worry about everything, it is possible that we suffer from generalized anxiety disorder (GAD).
That floating anguish that overshadows everything and that offers us no truce configures a state of great mental and physical exhaustion. Given this state, it is important to request specialized help. The symptoms are usually the following:
- Inability to control worry.
- Deterioration in the work and personal environment due to this constant concern.
- A wide physical symptomatology: tachycardia, muscle aches, insomnia, dizziness, fatigue, feeling of suffocation ...
- These situations must be present for at least 6 months.
What can I do in this situation?
Behind generalized anxiety disorder there may be other realities that must be considered, such as depression or trauma. It is important to have a good diagnosis and to personalize the therapeutic strategy based on the needs of each patient.
In most cases, good results are seen with cognitive behavioral therapy. Last but not least, it is essential that we learn to handle states of concern.
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