When you have known happiness (or want it for your future) you can overcome difficult moments
Happiness is not a guaranteed good. It is not something lasting in time. Likewise, unhappiness is not a mistake of fate, a stain that blurs everything, nor is the inability of someone to see things differently. Absolutely. Both are part of our own existence, of what we are, of what is, after all, the history of humanity itself.
Now there is an interesting fact. Those who have known stability, those who have enjoyed a good childhood and enriching life moments, often face hard times with greater skill. Calm times and difficult times are valuable learning moments for these people.
However, there is a curious and relevant exception at the same time. In a study carried out at the University of California and Southwest University in China, they point out something interesting. Children who have been abandoned or have suffered abuse, manage (in most cases) to overcome their trauma by feeding hope. Imagining that their future is going to be happy and auspicious gives them great psychological strength.
Having known well-being and happiness and even projecting it towards the future gives us a great capacity to overcome difficult moments.
Calm times and difficult times: the courage to experiment, to fall and get up
Calm times and difficult times come and go. They are also the reverse of the same coin; we cannot always foresee them and, when they arrive, we enjoy the former and suffer with the latter. The most important thing of all is not to hold on.
We cannot cling to the idea that this calm will last forever. To think that happiness now is indelible ink is a mistake. Likewise, it is also a mistake to think that adversity is permanent, that those complicated and even painful days are going to maintain their quota indefinitely.
It is our responsibility to prevent this discomfort from becoming chronic and, for this, we must invest resources, awaken strengths, know how to ask for help, allow ourselves to heal little by little.