Resilience and adaptability to danger
Nothing that happens in the world is tailored to the human being; planet Earth could continue to exist perfectly without us.
However, it cannot be said that most of us are constantly suffering for the simple fact of existing in this environment. There are many clues that indicate that, even if sometimes what happens around us affects us very negatively, there are frequent cases in which we manage to recover, turn the page and continue living.
Therefore, many people wonder ... how to face adversity, once it has already begun to occur or has already occurred directly? This is precisely the topic that we will talk about in the following lines.
How to face adversity through personal adaptation?
If there is something that characterizes the human being, it is his ability to adapt to very varied situations.
And, for pure statistics, among those diverse situations to which we can adjust our behavior are adverse moments of crisis or directly catastrophes. It is spectacular to see to what extent we are able to recover after having gone through very hard situations , before which anyone would say that we were not prepared or that we could have seen them coming.
But the truth is that, one way or the other, there are ways to face adversity and return to emotional stability. In this sense, a key concept to understand this is resilience , a word closely linked to the processes of psychotherapy and mental health in general.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability to adapt to difficult times, and through which we reemerge from crisis situations to achieve emotional stability again , and even a sense of progress and direction in our lives even when we still carry some problems associated with adversity we've been through.
Resilience has been shown to be a latent potential in practically all people, and given the right circumstances, it is possible to favor their emergence to feel better and adopt a constructive and solution-oriented attitude.
Its existence is based on the own way of working of our brain ; As with the entire human nervous system in general, it is constantly changing, adapting to our experiences and allowing us to learn all kinds of skills. Therefore, we can even learn to learn to manage our emotions in difficult times.
Psychological tools to adapt to changes
Here are some psychological tips you should keep in mind to improve your ability to adapt to changes. These are relatively simple practices that, if incorporated into your day-to-day and integrated with your habits, allow you to develop resilience.
1. Combine theory and practice
In times of crisis, it is very common for people affected by bad times to take refuge in introspection to try to find a solution to what happens to them . For example, going through a series of ideas that worry them, to see if they eventually find a way to take that weight off of themselves when reaching a conclusion that alleviates their discomfort.
This is not only not customary to solve things, but is also counterproductive, because it gives way to psychological rumination: the tendency to not be able to remove an anxious thought from the head, which returns to consciousness again and again due to the importance that we give it and that in the end we cannot even "block" , since we end up being very sensitive to its appearance due to all the unpleasant emotions that we have been attributed to it over time.
For this reason, in order to adapt to change, the essence of the concept of "adaptation" must be put into practice: to continue interacting with the environment and with others, without closing in on ourselves.
2. Structure your day to day
In times of crisis when everything changes and we must face an uncomfortable or even painful reality, it is easy for the lack of references about what we should do to make us feel that the situation is beyond us, as we have nowhere to lean on. This leads many people to adopt an apathetic attitude, characterized by passivity and sedentary lifestyle, and certainly in the face of experiences like this it can be said that this way of behaving is "what the body asks of us."
However, one should not fall into this trap of helplessness and hopelessness; even if it costs, we must try to set short-term goals, even if they are very simple, to keep us moving. This will allow us to gain momentum and be able to find ways to improve our situation in a relatively short period.
For this, there is nothing like designing schedules that structure our day to day from activities and clear routines and with a very defined beginning and end. It is about staying active to improve our global vision of what we are experiencing and discovering options that we would not have noticed from pure theory, if we had to stay still on the sofa for hours.
3. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness (or Mindfulness, in Spanish) is a state of consciousness that can be fostered through the performance of a set of exercises inspired by Vipassana meditation .
Its effects as a measure of prevention of symptoms linked to depression and as a method of managing anxiety, together with the fact that Mindfuness is relatively easy to practice, have made this resource for modulating emotions widely used in both psychotherapy and , increasingly, contexts such as educational centers and companies.
For this reason, today there are many teams of psychologists who have experts in Full Care both for sessions with patients and to train professionals and individuals in courses and workshops.
4. Seek the support of others
Whether or not you have a lot of friends, you may find people willing to help you, either by offering you moments of empathetic listening or going further and offering yourself social or material resources.
As much as you have been closing in on the band until now, do not forget that the raison d'être of society is mutual aid , and that you can count on it either in your family or friends circles, in neighboring entities or the administration public, in meetings of people affected by your problem, forums and Internet groups, etc.
Of course, keep in mind that the objective is not to end up totally depending on these people, but rather they are a support point to build your own future, without haste but without pause.
5. Keep your guilt feelings under control
In adverse situations, many of the people who are forced to adapt to their new reality tend to feel guilty about the bump they have been through or are still going through . This is a pessimistic bias that can be very damaging and crippling, and slows the process of building resilience.
To keep it at bay, it's helpful to keep a self-log of thoughts. When you notice that a thought of self-blame comes to your awareness, briefly write down what you have thought, how you have felt and the moment and place in which this has happened to you; At the end of the day, write down below each one a replica that shows to what extent these ideas are irrational and not very true to reality, existing only because at that moment you felt bad.
6. Maintain a good level of health
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