Emotions tell us who we are and how our stories have affected us
Our existence is not woven solely with the threads of happiness. In that fabric that belongs to each of us, the color of grief, loss and sadness also abounds. However, in this game of tones and contrasts lies the true vital beauty (and resistance).
Now, a common characteristic of emotions is that they have the power to define our stories and the people we become. To understand it better we will put an example. A couple breakup can create a permanent injury. An emptiness where the spirits go and the hopes flee. That pain can become chronic to the point of failing to start new relationships.
Such stories are often frequent. Instead, other people show us a more gleaming emotional fabric, that where resilience, the ability to overcome, the constant desire to live, feel, experience is glimpsed ... Life is measured in emotions and, although some of them are painful, This suffering does not have to give our existence a single color.
Well-being is feeling the right emotion at every moment and knowing what to do with it
Les Greenberg is a Canadian psychologist renowned for being one of the creators of emotion-focused therapy. Something that indicates us in works such as Emotion-focused Therapy, is that people continue to be lost in terms of emotions. We repress them, we deflect them, we do not know how to name them and, often, we let ourselves be carried away without first thinking about the consequences.
Something we must understand is that well-being is feeling the right emotion at the right time and knowing what to do with it afterwards. What does this mean? It means, for example, that when someone offends me I have the right to feel anger. But that rage should not make him react with violence, but with assertiveness and success.
It also implies that in a situation of change and uncertainty it is normal to feel fear and anguish. Those emotions must be accepted and experienced as something expected and normal. Understanding these principles of psychological health will undoubtedly allow us to move much better for each situation and personal circumstance.
Life is measured in emotions: don't stop learning from them
Life is not measured in time, life is measured in emotions, in moments of happiness, melancholy, hope, hope and also sadness. We are what has happened to us but, above all, what we have felt in each of these experiences. That is what makes us unique.